Most People Are Not Good
Most people are not good people. Decent people are genuinely rare — this is the most basic perception and judgment any normal person can make.
Don’t listen to those who tell you that you’re just too weak and that’s why you feel this way. People who say that are likely malignant narcissists — people with personality disorders who lack empathy.
The truth is, a normal person doesn’t need to experience being truly victimized firsthand to perceive the malice in most people.
If they’re normal and somewhat observant, they know that the ones in school who fawned over pretty, outgoing girls and mocked or discriminated against the unattractive or overweight ones — those were the bad people.
The ones who gave invisible classmates humiliating nicknames, who sucked up to bullies, who gloated when a classmate got hurt in PE class.
The ones who spread rumors about outgoing, pretty girls being promiscuous because they couldn’t stand them being popular with the opposite sex, who huddled together sneering and laughing at classmates’ looks, family backgrounds, and grades — all bad people.
As the saying goes: adults’ goodness is mostly hypocritical; children’s cruelty is genuine. Same thing.
They already make up a significant portion of the crowd.
In college and grad school — finding a roommate who maintains basic hygiene, knows respect and tolerance, doesn’t sow discord, isn’t jealous, rarely disturbs others’ sleep at night, doesn’t pry into roommates’ relationship details, doesn’t monitor your comings and goings, isn’t overly critical and nitpicky with double standards, isn’t snobbish, doesn’t expect to live off your food, doesn’t meddle, isn’t passive-aggressive, and doesn’t put others down — I’ve never met one so far.
They all have several of the flaws above, yet think they’re charming or exceptionally capable.
In the workplace: bullying the weak and fearing the strong, being passive-aggressive, undermining fairness, volunteering to be a company bootlicker, ostracizing colleagues, publicly gossiping about coworkers’ relationships and blind dates, twisting the truth, acting as enforcers for those in power…
Good grief, there really aren’t many good people.
Some believe that humans are born good, others believe humans are born evil — this is a matter of philosophy.
But our brief lives are lived only once. Maybe you should trust what you’ve observed, shouldn’t you?